We seem to live in a society where common sense is extremely uncommon. It is as though it is not to be encouraged.
As parents we all make mistakes. Often in those early days we vow never to make the mistakes our parents made. Usually we don’t we simply make a whole new set of our own!

Points to ponder.

How to put your child onto the wrong life path

Begin in infancy to give him everything he demands .
In this way he will grow up to think that the world owes him a living.

When he uses bad language laugh at him then he will think that he is funny.

Avoid the use of the word wrong or naughty it may give him a guilt complex.

Pick up everything he leaves lying around. Do everything for him so that he will grow to expect this to happen all his life.

Make excuses for him when he is rude and obnoxious to other people .
Say he is tired and having a bad time although you know that isn’t true.

Let him spend hours on his computer without checking who is contacting him .

Quarrel and row with your partner when he is in the house deluding yourself that he can’t hear you. {Children hear most things even our thoughts.} This will help him to make fractious relationships himself.

Don’t worry when he does not want to find a job in the holidays just make sure he has plenty of spending money.

Whatever you do ensure that he never experiences frustration, meet his every need

Let him eat and drink whenever and whatever he wants. Never say no this could upset him.

When you know he is telling lies, ignore the fact don’t challenge him he could get angry.

If some one complains about his behaviour be sure to disbelieve them. Of course they are prejudiced against your child.

When he tells you of something he is intending to do that would be of benefit to him warn him about everything that could go wrong.

Teach him to have a negative outlook, then he will always expect disappointment.

Do not remind him of good manners you could cause serious damage by hurting his feelings.

Tell him he can come home at any time then he won’t get anxious about a deadline

Whatever you do never suggest he bring his friends home this could put him under pressure.

Oh and last but not least don’t let him know he is loved he might be embarrassed

When you have done all of this do not expect him to respect you because he probably won’t……….. After all you have not respected him.

{The ‘He’ quoted here could of course be a ‘her’}

Thanks for joining me please feel free to comment as hopefully you will.

I wish you well
Keep safe until next time.

Vera waters.

This occurs not only in the complex field of politics but so often in life in general. We see the need to make changes and yet we often leave things as they are and make no change at all.

Of late I have been involved in the ‘bookbite’ project. This work is aimed at helping people who are 60+ to get more out of life, to have confidence and most of all to appreciate how much people in this age group have to offer the world. On retirement our lives need not be over; this experience is simple another door opening. We are joining the ranks of the ‘wise and wonderful.’

At this point I should say why not click on to the link on the home page of this site and find out more about the bookbite magazine which is available in libraries and has proved to be a great success..

As a result of this work I was invited to meet Princess Anne on 11th March at a Royal Reception in Westminster. It was an enjoyable day and I was very impressed with the fact that she knew so much about the feelings and attitudes of the older generation. She will celebrate her sixtieth birthday this year. Gracious and full of empathy she chatted amicably as each person was presented to her. It was a good day, a day to be cherished and remembered.

Whatever age we are we could do a lot worse than to grasp life by the throat and shake it! The moment in which we stand and breathe is the only moment of which we can be sure. The media seems to almost always present us with the worst happenings and the most heinous crimes totally ignoring the fact that there is a great deal of good taking place in the world around us. If it was left to me I would have a happiness channel on the radio so that when we tuned in to that station all we heard was good news. Think how uplifting that would be!

It could be that wherever you are, whatever age you happen to be that a small change in your life at this moment could have a big affect. You might need to make a journey, change a routine, pay some one a compliment, tell a small child that you think he is the greatest or simply think positive even about the weather. Give some one close to you a hug. It would make a change in some ones life….. and yours too…

Christmas with all its festivities is now behind us. For many people the season brings with it sadness in one form or another and of course there are some who through no fault of their own spend a lonely Christmas.
For those of us with families around us it is a reminder that children tend to help us to enjoy the season much more, all the expectation and the whoops of joy after Father Christmas has left his presents.

Due to the long lasting bad weather most of us have had to adapt our everyday living in one way or another. There have been so many accidents on the roads, lots of raised voices and shortness of temper frustration, anger a variety of emotions and feelings. However I have noticed a great many women coming to the help and assistance of other drivers. Helping to push cars out of snow and ice. Sadly I did not see many men responding equally well. They were to be observed, sitting in their vehicles using mobile phones. Could this suggest that women tend to be proactive in a crisis? I can hear men out there groaning. Well it is just a thought!

My involvement in the latest ‘booktrust’ initiative has given me a great deal of pleasure. The publication will be available in libraries and other centres in February. My contribution is all about the art of story telling.
We do need to revive this art form. Much as the world of technology has progressed for the good it cannot replace the warmth and the togetherness of story telling.

Recently I spoke to a grandmother who said she wouldn’t dream of asking her grand children if they would like to listen to a story

‘Why ever not? I asked.

‘They are only interested in their computers’ she replied.

If we allow the art of story telling to die we will lose something very precious. It is a way for children to learn by being involved, a way for them to escape into their own imagination. It encourages them to feel close to another human being. To share an experience.
People have told stories since the beginning of time. Our whole lives are made up of, incidents, feelings, happenings and experience. Your life is a unique story as is mine and the life of every other human being.

I am hoping to ‘blog’ more often especially as at this time I am working hard writing my fifth book. This one is entitled ‘Another cup’ well that’s not too surprising is it.

We are taking orders now. Please email to reserve a signed copy.
vera@verawaters.com

Back here soon in the meantime keep safe and well. Remember you are a unique personality

Positivity  has to become a way of life, deciding not to be a moaner always seeing the half empty glass. That decision is up to you. Realizing that most people have a lot of ’stuff’ going on in their own lives and that maybe they need us and don’t need to be burdened by our problems

I am motivated by people who put me to shame because despite set backs they fight back. My father became almost totally blind as he got older. He and my mother lived in a bungalow. One day my mother tripped and fell down she wasn’t badly hurt but it set him thinking. ‘Not enough light in that corridor’ he said  ‘I will put windows in the doors.’ It was no use my saying Dad I’ll get you new doors with glass panes, no use at all.

He throughout his life had set his hand to making things particularly in wood. as he pointed out he couldn’t use his lack of sight as an excuse for being less of a craftsman. It took him a month, often I would visit and silently weep as he struggled. I  wanted to dash off to B&Q and buy new doors but this old man had his dignity and his pride.

Eventually the doors were completed and with my Mothers help he rehung them one by one  He could not see the sunshine as it lit up the corridor but he said  ‘it is lighter in here. ‘Always the full glass, always positive. he spoke as though he could still had full sight.’

During my life I have met so many positive people. If you are positive you will know. You will have lots of friends. You will laugh and have the gift of being able to make others smile. You will  not mind being the focus of a joke or prank. You will notice when other people need you to listen….most of all you will be part of this amazing day

Hope to ‘Blog’ again soon until then keep safe and well .

Today is your present

I have thought about many times but some how it all sounded so very complicated; now however with the help of my wonderful web-mentor here I am. As an author and life coach I see life from all sorts of angles. The aim of everything that I do is to help people feel more positive to look at life differently. Today I made a telephone call to place an order for some books. The man who answered sounded fairly young.

The good thing about our conversation was that he was so helpful within the first couple of minutes he managed to convey to me that my order was important. He wasn’t what he said it was his attitude. I don’t suppose for one minute that he is on commission for the number of books he sells but he should be. I thanked him and told him that he had made my day…why? because he had. he helped me to continue to feel positive. He reminded me that at this time when the members of our government are reminding us that we cannot really trust them. When the news bulletins are full of gloom and doom that some things continue to be positive it is all down to each individual. ‘A persons sense of well being usually depends on the way they react to external pressures’ Now that’s the beginning of a chapter in my next book.